Last year, I wrote a post titled, 50 Facts About Me, to welcome my new supporters to the family. The post consisted of random questions I pulled from Google’s search engine that varied from where my hometown is to what countries I’ve traveled to. Considering this post garnered a lot of traffic to my blog, making it among my top ten blog posts of 2018, it’s safe to assume you all enjoyed it—or at least thought it was interesting enough to click on?
In any event, we’ve got some new members to our blogging family and I figured I’d write a similar post to help everyone get to know me even better. Last week, I celebrated my thirty-fourth birthday, so it’s fitting that I offer thirty-four fun facts about me that I haven’t mentioned yet. The first few questions are related to blogging. The rest are random, yet interesting. I hope you enjoy this post!
1. How did you first get into blogging?
I believe it was the year 2010 when I first got a taste of the blogging world. I sort of fell into it. I joined a social media platform for women with natural hair and started sharing my natural hair journey with other women of color. Although this platform no longer exists, some of my writings are still floating around the Internet to this day.
2. What inspired you to start your recent blog?
Loneliness. When I started homeschooling my children, it felt like we were the only black homeschool family in the world. My blog allowed me to connect not just with other black homeschoolers, but with homeschoolers from many racial, cultural, and geographical backgrounds. It was my way of saying “I’m here and I’m with you” to all those homeschool moms that felt the same loneliness.
3. What is your greatest blogging failure so far and what did you learn from that?
Hmmm. I would say not doing adequate research. When I first started blogging in 2010, I would share any old info’ that popped up in my search engine and it came back to bite me. These days, I seek scholarly sources and am more thorough with my research when applicable.
4. What is your proudest achievement as a blogger so far?
Hands down, the number of people I’ve helped. Whether I’ve helped them find a valuable resource, peace of mind, or encouragement, it always warms my heart to open an email from someone who just wants to say thank you.
5. What is your greatest achievement outside of blogging?
I’d have to say my mental and spiritual growth. My skin’s a little thicker, I’m more confident, more spiritual, and am pretty much happy and thankful to be who I am and where I’m at in life.
6. Who are some of your favorite bloggers?
- Camille from Homeschooling in the “D” —She’s a homeschool veteran with excellent advice.
- Muffy Mendoza from Brown Mamas —She empowers women of color by helping them cultivate a community. She’s also a homeschool mom, author, and motivational speaker.
- Latonya from Joy in the Ordinary —She’s a wonderful resource for homeschool support.
- Brenda from Becoming His Tapestry—She’s an inspirational blogger, and former homeschool mom, awarded Top 30 Christian Lifestyle Blog.
- Jady Alvarez—She has awesome homemaking, education, and parenting tips for homeschool moms and educators.
7. Is blogging your profession or just a hobby?
My blog is definitely a hobby right now. While it has helped me earn money, I simply haven’t had the time to make this a full-time gig yet. Contrary to what some people think, even blogging part-time is very time-consuming.
8. How often do you communicate with your followers?
Pretty regularly. Join me on Instagram where I post family snapshots and video stories at least four times a week. Follow me on Facebook where I share inspiring stories, budget-friendly resources, and snapshots of our day-in-the-life. I also like to read your blog posts on a weekly basis (if you’re a fellow blogger), so it’s likely you’ll see me drop by with a like and/or comment!
9. What do you do in your spare time?
When I’m not blogging or teaching, I’m creating educational resources for Nike Anderson’s Classroom, reading self-help books, writing musings, listening to motivational podcasts or Youtube videos, getting my blood flowing, helping my husband run the family business, exploring local (or far away) beautiful places with my family, eating Mexican food, window shopping, hanging out with friends, laughing until I cry, drinking coffee, or sleeping.
10. What are some red flags you watch out for in daily life?
It may seem weird, but too much praise. Sincere compliments are wonderful, but too much flattery makes me suspicious of a person’s intentions. Why? Because it NEVER, I repeat NEVER ended well when my relationships/friendships started off with incessant praise. Sometimes people use flattery as a manipulation tool, so be careful!
11. What “old person” things do you do?
Use slang incorrectly, say things like “Is that what the young people are doing these days?” or “What happened to real music?,” declare how “hip” I am, get excited about coupons, retell the same stories to anyone who’ll listen—okay, I’ll stop embarrassing myself now.
12. What makes you roll your eyes every time you hear it?
“Natural hair is not for me.” Oh, the irony of that statement. God gave it to you. It’s for you, boo.
13. How do you judge a person?
By how they talk about other people and/or treat people with lower economic status. I once read a statement that said, “How people treat others whom they believe are beneath them is very telling of their character.” So far, so accurate.
14. When was the last time you were snooping and found something you wish you hadn’t?
I Googled myself once (under my then blogging alias about 8 years ago) and found someone had shared one of my blog posts. The comments underneath that shared post were hateful and non-constructive. It took a while for me to get over it. But it was a lesson learned in so many ways. The primary lesson? It’s none of my business what other people think about me.
15. If you were moving to another country, but could only pack one carry-on sized bag, what would you pack?
- My Bible.
- My cell phone.
- My laptop.
- My intimates (bras in my size are difficult to find and are expensive).
- My family photos.
- My important documents.
- My makeup.
- My good jeans (they’re high waisted and very forgiving).
- Some leggings and comfy tops (I know how to pack military style).
- My favorite bathrobe.
- My Ninja to make smoothies.
- My natural hair products.
- A converter for my plugs.
- A pair of heels.
16. If you could have an all-expenses paid trip to see any famous world monument, which monument would you choose?
The Burj Khalifa in Dubai. It’s currently the tallest skyscraper in the world and I would love to take my boys (who love architecture and skyscrapers) to see it in person.
17. What’s the most ridiculous thing you have bought?
During my undergrad years, I thought I was purchasing a $99 refurbished laptop from eBay (I know, I know). It was supposed to be a gift for my fiancé (now husband). Turns out when I received it, it was basically a shell with NOTHING inside. No motherboard, no nothing. The computer techs practically laughed us out of the store when we asked if there was anything they could do to “fix” it.
18. What outdoor activity haven’t you tried, but would like to?
Zip-lining. My husband just tried it last weekend and I would like to work up the courage to try it one day.
19. What’s the worst backhanded compliment someone gave you?
“I love your home—My husband and I are considering downgrading to something small like this.” It’s probably not the worst backhanded compliment, but it’s all I can think of at the moment. Believe me, homegirl was being super shady when she said it. It was a home my husband and I shared when we lived in Atlanta, Georgia nearly seven years ago.
20. If you were given one thousand acres of land that you didn’t need to pay taxes on but couldn’t sell, what would you do with it?
Grow crops for food. I’ve been liking the idea of growing my own food more and more lately, and I just might do it one day.
21. What about the opposite sex confuses you the most?
The thought-process behind throwing dirty clothes onto the floor NEXT to the laundry basket. Didn’t know this was an epidemic until I spoke with other wives with the same problem. Love you anyway, hubby! It’s all in fun!
22. What kinds of things do you like to cook or are good at cooking?
I’m told I make a great spaghetti meat sauce, baked mac n cheese, homemade BBQ sauce, and homemade chewy sugar cookies—just to name a few. I actually don’t like cooking, but I love when people enjoy my food—especially my hubby and children.
23. What life skills are rarely taught but extremely useful?
How to handle and overcome adversity. I think too many people give up way too soon. We’d have more successful people if we were taught to expect adversity and were given the tools to come out on the winning side of it.
24. What’s the most historic thing that has happened in your lifetime?
There are a few; the 9/11 attacks on the WTC, having the first black POTUS, and the 2015 presidential election in Nigeria—which was the most important election in that country since 1999, and I happened to be visiting during that time. I missed my flight back home to the States due to demonstrations happening in Lagos.
25. What’s the most awkward thing that happens to you on a regular basis?
The long, awkward pause when someone asks me how old my children are, what grade they’re in, how many years I’ve been married, or how old I am. For some reason, the answers don’t come to me straight away. Like, I swear I know how old my kids are, haha.
26. What’s the most annoying noise?
The sound of my children asking for water for the umpteenth time after going to bed. Haha.
27. What animal is the most majestic?
I love lions and tigers (you know you want to finish the song). But seriously, I am a fan of big cats. Have you ever looked into their eyes? So beautiful and regal.
28. What seemingly innocent question makes you think “It’s a trap!”?
The good ol’ “What do you do for a living?” I think most creatives hate this question because it simply can’t be summarized in a way that’s pleasing to itching ears. Also, I’ve found that this question stems from one of two places; 1.) Someone wondering how you can afford something they deem a luxury. 2.) Someone waiting for the opportunity to brag about what THEY do. Whatever the case, either your answer will cause them to feel inferior or superior. Neither is a good outcome. I do understand, however, that in some cases this is harmless small talk.
29. What small change greatly improves a person’s appearance?
A genuine smile. There’s nothing more beautiful than a face that reflects a heart at peace.
30. What topic could you spend hours talking about?
Ugh. natural hair. I low-key get excited whenever someone brings up the topic. I love everything about natural hair from the spiritual journey I’ve experienced, the discovery and acceptance of self, to the science of taking care of it. It’s all so fascinating. So much so that I was once a regular contributor to an online natural hair care magazine. Best hobby ever. But actually, I like talking about anything that’s helped me grow as a person, really—faith, homeschool, family, parenting, you name it!
31. What’s the weirdest thing that has happened to you while working at your job?
A couple years ago, I was hit on by a married man in front of his wife (and ALL my colleagues). I was working the front desk at a part-time job after relocating from Atlanta to Middle Georgia and the man blatantly flirted with me while his wife was standing next to him. She said nothing at all but stood there nervously smiling. And, yes, I’m sure it was his wife as I was helping them fill out pertinent paperwork. I thought I was on a prank television show or something. I couldn’t fill out his paperwork fast enough. Mortifying.
32. What are some of the most common misconceptions people have about you?
- That I’m shy.
- That I’m high maintenance.
- That I don’t have a sense of humor.
In all fairness, I can see why that’d be an initial impression, as I’m a woman of few words around people I don’t know very well. That’s because I’m trying to discern what type of people they are. You’ll discover a lot about people when you close your mouth and just listen to them speak.
33. What was the biggest realization you had about yourself?
I am super TMI. Typically, this happens around people I’m comfortable with. I don’t know how many times a friend has lovingly said, “I didn’t need to know that.” I’m getting better though. It took a few unfavorable experiences for me to wise up and learn when to keep things to myself.
34. What values are most important to you?
Faith, peace, love, family, education, health, authenticity, and persistence. But above all; faith, peace, and love.
Can you relate to any of my answers? Let me know in the comments!
Until next time, friends…